- Research Article
- 10.1080/10486801.2025.2579263
Love Me Tender: Kim Noble and the End of Loneliness
- Oct 02, 2025
- Contemporary Theatre Review
- Anna Six
Who are you with when you are alone? We tend to think of loneliness as a solitary affair, a solo pursuit or phenomenon. But is it? I wonder if, in fact, our loneliness is densely populated, peopled by those we love, loathe, and long for. This is to ask, then, whether loneliness is, paradoxically and necessarily, a social and relational occurrence? Loneliness is also often framed as something that is wrong with you, inside you, the individual. To be lonely is to be failing, to be flawed inside, to lack social capital, to be not getting the project of living ‘right’. Moreover, it is a shameful experience that requires more effective, individual self-management – join a club, volunteer in the community, get a dog. The imperative is clear: connect or else. This article seeks to move beyond pathological and individualistic understandings of loneliness. I argue that loneliness is connected to liberal ideas such as privacy and ethics and ideologies such as gender and work. Through an exploration of the live artist Kim Noble, who turns the private business of loneliness into social and affective performance landscapes, I argue that loneliness demands that we contemplate the politics of sociality. I ask not only what a feeling like loneliness is, but also how it has become pathologised and to what political ends. I propose that by engaging the unavoidably relational condition of loneliness one is able to recognise and critique regimes of liberal individuation in a period of compulsory hyperconnectivity.
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