Two weddings, one at Cana and our own: how the analysis of our wedding day acts as a model to cultivate intimacy, reciprocity and the fullness of life
ABSTRACT In my theological reflection, I explore a life-giving relational intimacy that was present during the day when my husband and I were married. Using a sociological understanding from Schweitzer’s model of adulthood, I begin to explore how relationships develop through a person’s many ‘strands’ (that is, the things that form us) intertwining with another person’s own strands. Using an ontological lens of univocity from Gilles Deleuze, I begin to process this relationality within the concept of becomings, that is, how different potentials and affects of different strands interact. Within this, I use Graham Ward’s conception of desire, in which ideas of relationality and love derive from a Trinitarian relating. This results in the ideas of becoming-intimate and becoming-reciprocal that show two different ways of relating. Using a hermeneutical triad of sign-belief-life, which is derived from a biblical exegesis of the story of the Wedding at Cana in John 2:1–11, I apply this tool to the socio-philosophical understandings of relationality – and idea that is unique to practical theology. The conclusion I come to is a model that shows a connection between intimacy, reciprocity and the fullness of life.
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